حَدَّثَنَا مُحَمَّدُ بْنُ عُثْمَانَ الدِّمَشْقِيُّ أَبُو الْجَمَاهِرِ، قَالَ: حَدَّثَنَا أَبُو كَعْبٍ أَيُّوبُ بْنُ مُحَمَّدٍ السَّعْدِيُّ، قَالَ: حَدَّثَنِي سُلَيْمَانُ بْنُ حَبِيبٍ الْمُحَارِبِيُّ، عَنْ أَبِي أُمَامَةَ، قَالَ: قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ: أَنَا زَعِيمٌ بِبَيْتٍ فِي رَبَضِ الْجَنَّةِ لِمَنْ تَرَكَ الْمِرَاءَ وَإِنْ كَانَ مُحِقًّا، وَبِبَيْتٍ فِي وَسَطِ الْجَنَّةِ لِمَنْ تَرَكَ الْكَذِبَ وَإِنْ كَانَ مَازِحًا وَبِبَيْتٍ فِي أَعْلَى الْجَنَّةِ لِمَنْ حَسَّنَ خُلُقَهُ

Book [43]: Book of general behavior (Kitāb al-Adab)
Chapter [8]: Regarding good character

Ḥadīth [4800]: It is narrated on the authority of Abī ‘Umāmah [al-Bāhilī] that he said: The Messenger of Allāh (peace and blessings of Allāh be upon him) said: “I guarantee a house in the surroundings of Paradise for a man who avoids quarrelling even if he were in the right, a house in the middle of Paradise for a man who avoids lying even if he were joking, and a house in the upper part of Paradise for a man who made his character good.”

1) Deliberately forgiving, in the case of one’s right, and avoiding the dispute is a great act of virtue and its reward is a beautiful palace in Paradise.
2) It’s nearly impossible for a believer to lie, except when it serves the purpose of reconciliation between spouses or between two Muslim brothers. *

• Reference: [4800 (5/270), Sunan Abī Dāwūd, Dārussalām (Eng)]

*: Point (2) is taken from the Urdu edition of Sunan Abī Dāwūd, Dārussalām (4800 (4/645))] – translated by Uzair Khan (India)

Withdrawal from one’s right in order to end a dispute is a manly act of great merit. Likewise, this ḥadīth tells us that a man should avoid telling a lie even in a light vein. If he gives great importance to the rules of the Sharī’ah (Islāmic law) and the commandments of Allāh and his Prophet (peace and blessings of Allāh be upon him), he will definitely refrain from telling a lie even in a chat session or just for the sake of joke. Usually, people don’t mind if one tells a lie in a jocular mood, rather some will perhaps approve it. Yet, Allāh disapproves of even the harmless or trivial form of falsehood and commands His slaves to keep away from it. From all considerations, however, moral excellence carries immense weight. Because no wrong or evil thing cab be shunned without it. In other words, moral excellence surpasses all forms of goodness.

• Reference: [630 (545/1), Riyāḍuṣ Ṣāliḥīn, Dārussalām (Eng)]

• Musnad Shāmīn (1230 (2/224))
• Musnad Shāmīn (1594 (2/407-408))
• Ṣaḥīḥ at-Targhīb (139 (1/168)) – on the authority of Mu’ādh bin Jabal
• Ṣaḥīḥ at-Targhīb (2648 (3/9))
• Bayhayqī’s Sunan al-Kubrā (21176 (10/420))
• Shu’ab al-Īmān (7653 (10/376))
• Al-Mu’jam al-Kabīr (7488 (8/117))
• Al-Mu’jam al-Kabīr (7770 (8/219))
• Al-Mu’jam al-Kabīr (11290 (11/139)) – on the authority of ibn Abbās
• Al-Mu’jam al-Kabīr (217 (20/110-111)) – on the authority of Mu’ādh bin Jabal
• Al-Mu’jam al-‘Awsaṭ (878 (1/269-270)) – on the authority of ‘Abdullāh ibn ‘Umar
• Al-Mu’jam al-‘Awsaṭ (5328 (5/284-285)) – on the authority of Mu’ādh bin Jabal
• Al-Mu’jam aṣ-Ṣagḥīr (805 (1/568-569)) – on the authority of Mu’ādh bin Jabal
• Kanzul ‘Ummāl (8299 (3/642))
• Kanzul ‘Ummāl (8307 (3/643-644)) – on the authority of ibn Abbās
• Kanzul ‘Ummāl (8308 (3/644))
• Kanzul ‘Ummāl (8309 (3/644)) – on the authority of Mu’ādh bin Jabal
• Kanzul ‘Ummāl (8310 (3/644)) – on the authority of ‘Abdullāh ibn ‘Umar
• Majma’ al-Zawā’id (715 (2/186-187)) – on the authority of Mu’ādh bin Jabal
• Majma’ al-Zawā’id (716 (2/187)) – on the authority of ‘Abdullāh ibn ‘Umar
• Majma’ al-Zawā’id (12714 (16/41-42)) – on the authority of Mu’ādh bin Jabal
• Majma’ al-Zawā’id (12715 (16/42)) – on the authority of ibn Abbās
• Al-Musnad al-Jāmi’ (5304 (7/438))
• Tuḥfatul Ashrāf (4876 (4/18))

• Tārīkh ad-Dimashq (2514 (10/128))
• Tārīkh ad-Dimashq (2515 (10/131))
• Tārīkh ad-Dimashq (64/14)
• Riyāḍuṣ Ṣāliḥīn (630)
• Ṣaḥīḥ al-Jāmi’ (1464 (1/306))
• Silsilah Aḥādīth aṣ-Ṣaḥīḥah (273 (1/552-556))

Grade:

Ḥasan by Shaykh al-Albānī (Sunan Abī Dawūd, Ṣaḥīḥ at-Targhīb & Ṣaḥīḥ al-Jāmi’)
Ḥasan by Majlis ‘Ilmi Dar ad-Da’wah, New Delhi (Sunan Abī Dawūd)
Ḥasan isnād by Ḥāfiẓ Zubayr ʿAlī Za’ī (Sunan Abī Dāwūd)
Ḥasan isnād by Shaykh Shu’ayb al-Arna’ūṭ (Sunan Abī Dāwūd)